Friday, June 9, 2017
I Deserve Better Therefore…
The modern definition of the word “deserve” means to do something or have or show qualities worthy of reward (or punishment).
I’m not a big fan of the word “deserve,” in fact, I almost hate it, it kinda pisses me off, and I wish we would limit its usage along with the overused words "awesome," "amazing," and "like" (opinionated much, Josh? :) )
When one “deserves” for doing something good (deserving for doing something bad is another story), often it comes with expectations: “I got good grades, so I deserve…,” “I cleaned the whole house, so I deserve…,” "I was the top salesperson, so I deserve…"
Except unbridled expectations are the seeds of pain and disappointment.
So where am I going with this???
Let’s get back to that word “deserve.” I gave you the modern definition but the word is derived from a middle English word that was derived from the Old French deservir, which was previously derived from the Latin deservire, which means to “serve well or zealously.”
Oh snap… I like that—a lot! So when you deserve you should be “serving well or zealously” … without expectation. There is no mention of worthiness of reward or punishment or anything else. It seems like we should be serving others without expectation anyway. If we serve and something is agreed upon in advance—a barter, a sale, a piece of recognition; then cool.
But if we serve and expect reward without clear definitions or when the gift of service is or should be the reward… then all we deserve is the disappointment we receive.
So… I'mma deservire-ing instead deserving when the situation warrants (which is probably pretty damn often).